if you call everyone dude and a transfem person gets mad about it, don’t get defensive. just say like “sorry, i won’t do it again” and don’t argue “actually it’s gender neutral” or “i call everyone dude”. even if you do, i guarantee she’s heard that argument from someone who very much does not call people they see as women dude. i certainly have

same goes double for the word guy.

  • dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    1·
    9 months ago

    It’s controversial, but “guys” is gender neutral now. You can call a group of men guys, a group of men and women guys, and as long as you’re not romantically pursuing a group of women, you can call a group of women “guys”.

    • acockworkorange
      1·
      9 months ago

      I’d like to avoid controversy if possible. Also, singular guy is still male, right? What would be a good singular first and third person gender neutral equivalent of dude?