girl you already passed as a cis woman after 1.5 years HRT and then you got FFS??? you literally just look like a different cis woman now? i am become dysphoria, the layer in bed
I think for a lot of people, even if they already “pass” to most strangers, getting ffs is not necessarily just about looking more feminine, but moreso about just looking different than the face they’ve felt so much dysphoria about for so long.
I know personally, when I look in the mirror I have a list of features I can systematically stare at until I start to feel like shit, and I can’t really stop myself from doing it.
There’s a lot to be said about how comfortable one is looking at themselves in the mirror. It might work for the general public, but if it doesn’t work for you, then what does it matter? It’s part of the reason I am still harsh on myself with my voice even though it passes very well. I want it to sound good to me as well, not just Random Stranger A
That’s very valid and something I never really considered but yeah, that’s fair and kind of describes me come to think of it. Like, transphobia is bad and I don’t want to experience that in public but I want to pass for myself. I don’t want to see a man in the mirror anymore. It’s funny, actually when i think about it enough; I like the idea of FFS but I don’t even think I’ll need it. With longer hair, no 5 o clock shadow, and smoother, drier skin, i could probably pass with relatively little HRT changes to my face. I remember I took the first selfies of myself that I actually liked like 3 weeks ago and it was when I was on a discord call with some friends and the low quality camera I bought for myself acted as basically softening filter and I thought I looked so fucking cute in those
If you liked the camera’s effects you would probably benefit from learning makeup as well, since it can make your skin look smoother. There’s other nice things it can do too of course but that’s one that can often help with looking more feminine. I believe there’s also makeup techniques to hide beard shadows? Idk for sure though I have no experience.
Also yeah definitely grow out your hair first if you want long hair, it can do incredible work for how well you pass. It won’t get you all of the way but it will get you more than you’d expect, especially when you style it femininely.
girl you already passed as a cis woman after 1.5 years HRT and then you got FFS??? you literally just look like a different cis woman now? i am become dysphoria, the layer in bed
I think for a lot of people, even if they already “pass” to most strangers, getting ffs is not necessarily just about looking more feminine, but moreso about just looking different than the face they’ve felt so much dysphoria about for so long.
I know personally, when I look in the mirror I have a list of features I can systematically stare at until I start to feel like shit, and I can’t really stop myself from doing it.
There’s a lot to be said about how comfortable one is looking at themselves in the mirror. It might work for the general public, but if it doesn’t work for you, then what does it matter? It’s part of the reason I am still harsh on myself with my voice even though it passes very well. I want it to sound good to me as well, not just Random Stranger A
That’s very valid and something I never really considered but yeah, that’s fair and kind of describes me come to think of it. Like, transphobia is bad and I don’t want to experience that in public but I want to pass for myself. I don’t want to see a man in the mirror anymore. It’s funny, actually when i think about it enough; I like the idea of FFS but I don’t even think I’ll need it. With longer hair, no 5 o clock shadow, and smoother, drier skin, i could probably pass with relatively little HRT changes to my face. I remember I took the first selfies of myself that I actually liked like 3 weeks ago and it was when I was on a discord call with some friends and the low quality camera I bought for myself acted as basically softening filter and I thought I looked so fucking cute in those
If you liked the camera’s effects you would probably benefit from learning makeup as well, since it can make your skin look smoother. There’s other nice things it can do too of course but that’s one that can often help with looking more feminine. I believe there’s also makeup techniques to hide beard shadows? Idk for sure though I have no experience.
Also yeah definitely grow out your hair first if you want long hair, it can do incredible work for how well you pass. It won’t get you all of the way but it will get you more than you’d expect, especially when you style it femininely.