the thing is just wanting to wear traditionally girl clothes or do girl things still doesn’t inherently make you trans. some femboys never transition, some people crossdress just because they like it - aesthetic preferences aren’t always absolutes in terms of gender identity (not to mention transwomen who never want to wear shorts shorts or shave their legs).
maybe this is putting it a bit too simply, but some people transition due to dysphoria, some over euphoria, and some because they just want to. does what you’ve been feeling and confused about fall into any of those categories? what would you gain right now from knowing you were trans?
I think it falls into the dysphoria category. I am constantly uncomfortable in my body and it has only gotten worse the more I consider things. It feels too large, too manish, too hairy, its gross and I hate it. My body feels like a prison I am lugging around. I haven’t gotten to try much girl stuff so I haven’t really felt much gender euphoria.
what would you gain right now from knowing you were trans?
I would feel legitimate and like I have a plan to go forward with.
it took my egg years to crack but i can tell you once i tried it ‘shaving just a like bit to see how it feels’ things went QUICK. Shaving my dark hair off was like cleaning my body and for the first time ever I looked upon my body with love and compassion and I wanted to take care of it. I have like fallen in love with mtself and care about myself and it’s transformative.
I wasn’t sure I was a girl until i let myself see if i liked it and boy howdy do I love it i’m never going back.
Dudes in the past use to wear much shorter shorts too. Clothing takes on gendered meaning in a cultures relative time and place, so I don’t think there’s anything intrinsically masculine or feminine etc. about the length of one’s trousers.
Also can someone tell me if this is actually a sign I’m trans or am I being silly (if I am please just say so)
the thing is just wanting to wear traditionally girl clothes or do girl things still doesn’t inherently make you trans. some femboys never transition, some people crossdress just because they like it - aesthetic preferences aren’t always absolutes in terms of gender identity (not to mention transwomen who never want to wear shorts shorts or shave their legs).
maybe this is putting it a bit too simply, but some people transition due to dysphoria, some over euphoria, and some because they just want to. does what you’ve been feeling and confused about fall into any of those categories? what would you gain right now from knowing you were trans?
dysphoria
I think it falls into the dysphoria category. I am constantly uncomfortable in my body and it has only gotten worse the more I consider things. It feels too large, too manish, too hairy, its gross and I hate it. My body feels like a prison I am lugging around. I haven’t gotten to try much girl stuff so I haven’t really felt much gender euphoria.
I would feel legitimate and like I have a plan to go forward with.
it took my egg years to crack but i can tell you once i tried it ‘shaving just a like bit to see how it feels’ things went QUICK. Shaving my dark hair off was like cleaning my body and for the first time ever I looked upon my body with love and compassion and I wanted to take care of it. I have like fallen in love with mtself and care about myself and it’s transformative.
I wasn’t sure I was a girl until i let myself see if i liked it and boy howdy do I love it i’m never going back.
I already shave a lot, its the visible stuff that I still want to. I really like how you put that, it really does feeling like cleaning my body.
That sounds amazing, I hope I feel like that eventually.
I highly recommend reading this, https://freethoughtblogs.com/nataliereed/2012/04/17/the-null-hypothecis/
Dudes in the past use to wear much shorter shorts too. Clothing takes on gendered meaning in a cultures relative time and place, so I don’t think there’s anything intrinsically masculine or feminine etc. about the length of one’s trousers.
So idk, shits complicated