• Monument@lemmy.sdf.org
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    Toxic polyamory situation. A partner I lived with and was once very in love with fell away when she got interested in someone new. It was messy and shitty. I wound up dating someone new, who I had a great relationship with, and it was very physical. But I still lived in a 2 bedroom apartment with my ex.

    My ex was a bit weird. She sort of viewed relationships as whatever things with no boundaries. Folks just do whatever they want in the moment and there’s no fidelity according to her. (Things I learned after I fell in love with her. Woof.) She also had intoned a few times that my new partner was a slut, which was sort of funny, given that my new partner had a pretty strong moral code.

    My ex got a little less interested in her new guy, and tried to seduce me one night. And I rejected her. We had officially ended things, and I did not want to revisit that.
    My ex sneered at me. “Fine. I hope you’re happy with [New Partner], and I hope [NP] is happy with you and your… magical penis!

    She practically spat that out at me, and… yeah. It was as funny then as it is now.

    And for the record, it’s not magical. I just like to put top hats and little capes on it sometimes.

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      I was in an open relationship once. It seemed fun on the surface, and it was definitely a very physical thing, but I realised that on an emotional level things just weren’t clicking: one moment she would refer to me as her boyfriend and her ex as the other, and then in another instant that would be flipped.

      I had no clue where I stood with this girl, and planning for any kind of future was impossible. Once I exercised my right(?) to sleep with someone else, I was labeled as a fuckboi and she broke it off. Stressful as hell. Dodged a bullet.

      Anyway, congrats on your magic dick.

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    A kid once asked to pet my dog and I said no. Kid then proceeded to tell me my dog looked evil. I was enraged. She is a dog, she can’t be evil, and she’s absolutely terrified of strangers but especially kids.

    Usually when I have to deny people petting this dog, I’ll offer to let them pet the other dog who’s normal, but fuck that kid, you don’t get to pet any dog today.

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      That kid probably fills his pockets with mud and stones, and the blood of his enemies.

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    “Look at you! You’re scrawny, you’re an alcoholic, if you didn’t have such a big dick you wouldn’t be worth nothing!”

    I, uh…

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    “Edomite!”

    I was getting onto a bus, someone looked me over and spat out the word. It was clear from the tone that it was an insult, but it also sounded suspiciously bronze age, so I was very excited to find out what it meant.

    Turns out it’s a biblical reference used by some black nationalist groups in the US to refer to white people as unclean or diseased. Edom was one of several late bronze age Canaanite kingdoms. At one point the torah describes them as slightly paler and dirty, hence the insult.

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    My grandmother called me a braindead bastard once when i was like…9

    Neither of those adjectives were applicaple to me considering i was in the gifted courses in school and her son is my father who had already married my mother when they had me

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    I told a cousin once I wasn’t going to be lectured on morality by a woman whose sole contribution to society was how much money she could spend at a liquor store. That whole post I wrote was honestly, according to my brother, some of the best criticism he’s read, quote, “You called her a lush without ever actually using the word, while also going up one side of her and down the other, saying everything the rest of us wanted to.” That cousin, to this day, will not interact with me at family gatherings.

    I also once threw shitty advice I was given back into my boss’s face in my resignation text, to the point where he mentioned it felt “personal” when he called me to try to get me to stay. That was the resignation friends/family told me I should be a writer because, “You have a knack for telling people to go fuck themselves in a way where they thank you afterwards.”

    My go to, though, when someone insults me is to usually respond, “I’ve been called worse by better.”

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      I’ve been called worse by better

      I’m trying to work out which is worse:

      • Mr Rogers calling me a Disappointment, or
      • Donald Trump calling me a Turd

      I think you’re right and that being given a lesser insult by a nicer person cuts deeper.

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      From a certain angle it could be a compliment. “I know how good you are, so I can’t undersell you”

      Use that angle when someone calls you out on this insult.

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      This is very powerfull because it has no slurs, polite, does jot compare you to something like a 8 years old insult and makes you think about for a moment. When the meaning sinks in you realize its power and it hurts.

      Insults that compare you to something aren’t that powerful.

      Insults that describe you, like this one, have a great impact.

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      Holy shit, this is crushingly depressing. And wasn’t even directed at me.

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    The human equivalent of drinking orange juice after brushing your teeth.
    That or smooth brain.

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    A friend of mine who’s a professional singer got told by his former conductor upon firing him, “well, see, if a violinist has a bad instrument he can just replace it. But in the case of a singer, well, it’s just not so easy.” Very roundabout and very crushing.

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    I stole it from Babylon 5, but “assassin of joy” is one I’ve used a few times

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      Reminds me of a line from Community: “You’re more like a fun vampire, instead of sucking blood you just suck.”

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    “You fucking Alaskan!”

    I laughed uncontrollably for several minutes after receiving this compliment. Wrong continent, buddy.

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      As an Alaskan, I will say that that is a compliment of the highest order.

      Now, if somebody had called you a Texan, that’s basically a slur. An insult of the greatest magnitude.