most of the bad ideas a young boy raised in a non toxic household is going to be exposed to are probably going to come from other boys their age. Shortly followed by the internet and then tv
providing a space where they can be vulnerable at home is from my childhood experience at least pretty helpful
Very true. I remember when i was a small boy i used to let my mom paint my nails because I thought it was cool. Then at the park one of the other boys sneered “only girls paint their nails” and I never wore nail polish again. But I doubt that behavior like this is innate in children
When I went to pick up a family friend’s son from daycare a couple months ago, some of the boys had nail polish. They weren’t being teased over it either. The kids are all right.
no they learned it from elsewhere in society. What I am saying is that you can’t just remove a boy (or girl) from society and the negative ideas it will teach them. At least not completely
I know. Which makes me sad, because I want to protect kids from the harm the patriarchy inflicts on them. Shits just fucked, and like you said a good home environment where they can express themselves is really the best I can do on an individual level
the personal is political. Helping protect just one child from this is helping the grander society shift as well. Like water droplets that cut through stone helping enough individual people have better ideas can help shift the culture overall
In elementary school I remember a Friday when a girl was going around saying “does any BOY want his nails painted?”
The most gruff boy in the grade accepted, and got one hand pink and one hand purple. Walked around the rest of the afternoon with a very proud smile on his face. In retrospect it was glorious.
Andrew Tate especially should not have access to kids and it is deeply irresponsible and fucked up to allow a human traficker and groomer access to impressionable children
This is so awful. Undoing toxic propaganda for your kids is a full time job that’s impossible to do well without alienating them from their peers, so you just have to satisfy yourself with doing the best you can. Having queer people in your life helps. Queer visibility is important for a reason.
This shit makes me so mad, even more so because I know that if I ever raised a son I couldnt stop other people from conditioning him this way
most of the bad ideas a young boy raised in a non toxic household is going to be exposed to are probably going to come from other boys their age. Shortly followed by the internet and then tv
providing a space where they can be vulnerable at home is from my childhood experience at least pretty helpful
Very true. I remember when i was a small boy i used to let my mom paint my nails because I thought it was cool. Then at the park one of the other boys sneered “only girls paint their nails” and I never wore nail polish again. But I doubt that behavior like this is innate in children
When I went to pick up a family friend’s son from daycare a couple months ago, some of the boys had nail polish. They weren’t being teased over it either. The kids are all right.
I’m happy to hear that :)
no they learned it from elsewhere in society. What I am saying is that you can’t just remove a boy (or girl) from society and the negative ideas it will teach them. At least not completely
I know. Which makes me sad, because I want to protect kids from the harm the patriarchy inflicts on them. Shits just fucked, and like you said a good home environment where they can express themselves is really the best I can do on an individual level
the personal is political. Helping protect just one child from this is helping the grander society shift as well. Like water droplets that cut through stone helping enough individual people have better ideas can help shift the culture overall
In elementary school I remember a Friday when a girl was going around saying “does any BOY want his nails painted?”
The most gruff boy in the grade accepted, and got one hand pink and one hand purple. Walked around the rest of the afternoon with a very proud smile on his face. In retrospect it was glorious.
You should try it again, see if you like it now that you’re grown, nobody to tell you off this time
An ex painted them once, its just not for me :)
I’m glad you tried again
As you mentioned the internet, specifically YouTube is really precarious for falling down any number of incredibly brainstormed rabbit holes.
I feel crazy wondering if the kids dressing up as Disney characters while their parents film are about to launch into a Prager u lecture.
Andrew Tate especially should not have access to kids and it is deeply irresponsible and fucked up to allow a human traficker and groomer access to impressionable children
and what he’s doing is very much grooming
This is so awful. Undoing toxic propaganda for your kids is a full time job that’s impossible to do well without alienating them from their peers, so you just have to satisfy yourself with doing the best you can. Having queer people in your life helps. Queer visibility is important for a reason.