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  • BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    For the menfolks; how would you feel if your SO announced they were trans and began transition? Would you stay together? Or just become friends or something?

    As a lady I don’t know how I’d feel, I think the sexual part would be a huge loss for me. I likes the G-spot orgasms.

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      5 months ago

      This is probably more of an individual’s question than a gender-based question. I would support the transition, but I’d be lying to myself if I said I’d want to be with a trans guy. I am vanilla-ass hetero.

    • Croquette@sh.itjust.works
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      5 months ago

      I would become friend. But I could not stay in a relationship with my partner. I am heterosexual, so dating a man wouldn’t work for me.

    • Maggoty@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      I think it depends on the relationship. Personally, I married the person, not her genitalia. I like those too but I want the person to be with me until the day we die, far far in the future.

    • Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      As a trans masculine non-binary person it’s more of personal conversation. My partner isn’t into masculine body types so my transition ended up being purely social because my partner does more on a daily basis to contribute to my happiness then the comfort of being in a body that doesn’t make me feel like shit daily. It’s a bit like having a pet allergy but deciding that you can live with feeling like someone poured sand into your sinuses every day rather than giving up your furry best friend. For all purposes though our relationship is coded and treated as though I am my specified gender. We are effectively culturally a same sex couple. Neither of us use female terms for my junk and he doesn’t claim to be straight. We do joke he is “queer by association” however.

      But what I am doing counts as a full transition.

      In regards to the what you give up situation it’s all rather dependant on how adverse you are and whether someone in your relationship is able to give a little and how much you value and ultimately how non-fungible the relationship is to you… Because - just putting it out there - strap-ons do exist.

      • BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world
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        5 months ago

        Yeah they just aren’t what I want though. It’s not that I wouldn’t be supporting him, it’s that I don’t know how that part would go.

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      5 months ago

      Good question, and highly dependent. I think for the most part I’d move to being friends.

    • Jayb151@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      I mean…I Guess my wife would have to get used to getting banged in the ass.

      So I guess if be to down for it?