Do you wish you were homeschooled? Are you homeschooling your kids now? Do you plan to homeschool in the future?

  • southerntofu@lemmy.ml
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    3 years ago

    I think homeschooling is the wrong answer to a real problem. Most schools are broken by design, they’re conceived to teach obedience and form docile workers, not to develop personality. But homeschooling can cut you from the realities of socializing with other kids… i’ve certainly met a few individuals who were homeschooled and had trouble adapting to social life.

    But why would a school have to be that bad? Can’t we have liberatory schools where children are treated as persons not objects?

    • pH3ra@lemmy.ml
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      3 years ago

      The problem when I was a kid were other kids and that’s nothing you can solve.</br> Some kids are just bullies and “prequels of an a.hole” and while they figure out how to be a reasonable human being every other kid has to suffer.</br> And some children suffered so much that sometimes I think that homeschooling for them would be the lesser of two evils.

    • lemtoman@lemmy.mlOP
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      3 years ago

      i can see that socialization issue, im far from having kids but i think maybe what i would want to do is like part homeschooling part go to school

  • ree@lemmy.ml
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    3 years ago

    Witout proper socializations and it will have an impact on the child. Diversity of experiences are important.

    • Catraism-Stalinism@lemmy.ml
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      3 years ago

      easy, Homeschool groups. I did it all the time. You sign up for specific groups that have a curriculum and set field trips and play dates for kids to learn and socialize, without having to deal with the american schools system.

      • ree@lemmy.ml
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        3 years ago

        Sounds like a good plan. I have no experience with the us system.

    • electrodynamica
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      3 years ago

      Diversity of experiences are important.

      Right, so send them to public school where individuality is homogenized out of them.

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        3 years ago

        I’ve never particularly understood this criticism, at least for my school. Elementary school was a little like that because we had the one main teacher, but by middle school and high school we were being encouraged to try out different things. And that was just before magnet schools were a thing in my school district. Now my elementary school shares space with a Spanish immersion school and my high school has a special arts magnet program. It seems like kids are being encouraged more than ever before to explore their individuality.

        • electrodynamica
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          3 years ago

          Sounds like your school district is better than 80-90% of the districts in the US.

      • ree@lemmy.ml
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        3 years ago

        Depends where. But yes a public school system will tend to decrease individuallity in profit of the collective, I don’t see it as a bad thing. It’s just different.

    • Amicese@lemmy.ml
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      3 years ago

      Then encourage (but don’t force) the child to socialize with the outside world.

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        Honestly, being forced into socializing with other kids was one of the best parts of my education. I have trouble getting motivated to plan things with friends, so k-12 and college were wonderful for building friendships. I haven’t necessarily continued those friendships much, but they were a great gift.

        • QueenLilac@lemmy.ml
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          Not all of us “enjoyed” being forced. You need to encourage healthy social skills on their level and in a way they are comfortable. Forcing oftentimes leaves the more socially inept people having issues of anxiety or bullying.

          • pingveno@lemmy.ml
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            Point taken. I realize I was lucky in the area of bullying. Either I never was a tempting target, my school didn’t have many bullies, or both. Looking back, I think some people tried to bully me a little and it flew over my head. Kind of hilarious in hindsight.

            • QueenLilac@lemmy.ml
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              Probably a mixture of both factors you listed are what happened. Though, I’m glad you didn’t have a lot of bullying. Bullying is so bad for mental health long and short term

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    3 years ago

    Homeschooling in America is segregationist bullshit.

    In a vaccuum I’m not against the idea of parents teaching their kids, but in reality it’s almost never just that. Here at least.

    • lemtoman@lemmy.mlOP
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      3 years ago

      That… seems very reductionistic. And also arent most american schools pretty segregated already since people tend to move to racially homogenous places already_

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    I think it’s fine as long as there’s intense socialization - after school programs, sports, volunteering, going to the park, play dates. As others have mentioned, don’t force it, but make sure it’s an option.

    I think homeschooling should end at some point in high school, as colleges like to see how a student compares to the rest of the student body (I would advise my own children to start as freshmen as to avoid any future isolation).

    I do wish I was homeschooled in elementary school. I asked to be homeschooled. I was bullied and abused. Middle school was okay. High school was wonderful and I’m glad I was not homeschooled at that time.

    I do not have children due to my health issues. If I had children and no health issues, I think I would give my children the option of homeschooling or public/private school, as well as the option to alternate as much as is reasonable/allowed.