All I found with citations was that it’s best to wait until marriage before cohabitation, but that boomer talk ain’t gonna happen for zoomers.

Otherwise, 1 article said “wait as long as possible” but I need a month/year number lmao.

  • sj_zero
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    11 year ago

    I started dating the woman who would become my wife just a few weeks before starting a new job in another city, and we clicked so quickly and easily that we decided to move together. It worked so perfectly that 12 years later we’re going strong.

    The answer to the question “What is the optimal length” seems to me “mu”; unask the question, because it is wrong. In my case we moved in almost immediately, but I’ve seen many cases where moving in together ended up destroying the relationship.

    On the other hand, maybe then the answer should be “as quickly as possible” because by moving in you quickly can end things if you’re not compatible rather than waste time on a doomed relationship.

    On the other other hand, some people don’t want to reach married with kids and a white picket fence. For those people, maybe the answer is to never move in together.